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December 7, 2009 at 1:31 am by Anonymous in - Family
#6 by Anonymous
The fear you feel means that you feel guilt. Although it may hurt your family to tell your husband what you have done, it is something that will help. If you don't tell him, then it would only prolong the inevitable and make it harder when you two do separate. Relationships are built on trust, communication, and love. Your husband has already shown that he does not make your relationship a priority because when he cheated on you, he showed that he puts whoever the other woman was before you.If you don't tell your husband about the affair, then you are putting your neighbor's husband and yourself before your husband and your family. Although you cannot take back the past, you can work towards bettering your relationship w/ your husband so that if he cheats, it will be on him.
#5 by Anonymous
you should have known better and learned from the heart break you suffered from your husbands betrayal. No one should cheat. It is horrible and senseless.
#4 by Anonymous
don't fight fire with fire. it only makes the problem worse.
#3 by Anonymous
Revenge just makes things worse, not better.
You should tell him. It sounds like your marriage isn't well to begin with, since he cheated on you, and it sounds kind of like you cheated on him to "make it even" or "get revenge". What have you. Maybe it's time to let it go. It can be hard when you love someone, but love doesn't make a relationship work.
Of course, I'm not saying to give up. Maybe try marriage counseling first.
#2 by Anonymous
Confession can be a selfish act. Whether or not it is depends upon your motives and true feelings. Only you can answer the question of right or wrong to confess IMHO. You need to do a lot of soul searching while being completely honest with yourself.
#1 by Anonymous
Well, you've just learned an important life lesson: revenge is never right, and it doesn't make you feel any better, either. Since you can't let his infidelity go, then you need to move on.
If you value your relationship, you will eventually have to tell him what has happened and why. It might destroy what family relationship you do have left, but when you f*cked your neighbor's husband, personal revenge against your husband was worth more to you than your family relationship. And now you have to be a responsible adult and own that choice... otherwise, you're just living a lie, and whatever family harmony you have if you keep the secret of your own affair is a joke anyway. All lies come to the surface eventually... what about if the neighbor's wife finds out and comes to your door screaming at you? He's gonna find out eventually, might as well face the music and dance.
