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October 7, 2009 at 9:32 pm by Anonymous in - Family
#2 by Anonymous
I agree with comment 1... there's no telling yet whether or not your son may be gay, because he hasn't hit puberty yet. As a gay person, though, let me tell you that it's something that 98 percent of us are born with and cannot help. Scientists have even found a genetic link to homosexuality... so it's nothing you can help if he is. What I would suggest is letting him explore, telling him there is nothing wrong with it, but letting him know that other people don't understand, so not to do it so much in front of others, at least until he's older. (Of course, we know that when kids turn into young adults, they are less vulnerable to others' opinions and have a stronger sense of self.) Let him know that you love him, and make it into a game, something fun, instead of something shameful. If it is a gender role exploratory stage, then he'll grow out of it, no harm done. If it's not, then at least you will have accepted him instead of making him feel terrible and ashamed of the way God made him. The most well-adjusted children are the ones who are loved for even for their quirks or things that make them unique. I'd let him continue dressing up as he likes, because there's no harm in it.
#1 by imakepurplesnow
you should allow your child to express himself. stopping him from doing so won't remove his desire to wear women's clothes. as his mother, try to be supportive and accept him, especially since you worry others won't. his dressing up may or may not be long term but don't let him think that you, his mother, do not love him as he is.
