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Sooo...I went out with my boyfriend last saturday for some drinks. I was feeling pretty drunk and we decided to go over to his best friend's house. Being as I was with my bf and his best friend, I was feeling pretty comfortable and decided to keep drinking...which led to more drinking...and eventually (and very stupidly) led to me doing 4 or 5 beer bongs in a row. At this point I was beyond gone...my boyfriend told me I was rolling around on the floor acting sexy (whatever that means). Anyways, I went out on the porch for a cigarette and they noticed that I hadn't returned for a long time so they went to check on me and supposedly saw some dude trying to make out with me. I have no idea who this guy is and barely remember what he looked like from meeting him when we first got there. Next thing I remember is that I was crying and my boyfriend was freaking out. Now here's where it gets ugly...today, exactly a week after the incident, my boyfriend went over to his friend's house and he told him that he got a call from that one dude and the guy says that he was having sex with me. I had no recollection of this...until now. I vaguely remember it, but it doesn't even seem real. I'm totally shocked and disgusted and I feel like I was raped. My boyfriend is totally ignoring my feelings and just feeling bad for himself. I have been completely honest with him and he is the only man that I ever want! Am I wrong for feeling like I was raped? I know that I shouldn't have been drinking like that in the first place, but I lost control (and am learning an extremely painful lesson because of it). I still only vaguely remember what happened and it doesn't feel real. I think maybe I thought that he was my boyfriend. I am so upset!! Not only do I feel like I was totally taken advantage of, but I also feel like I am losing my best friend-the man that I love. I feel like things will never be the same! :( Am I wrong for wanting my boyfriend to understand how I feel?

read comments (7) you are RIGHT! (50) - you are WRONG! (19)
September 19, 2009 at 6:59 am by Anonymous in - Sex

#7 by bustitbaby

i voted you are right.. but its more complicated then that. the feeling that u were raped makes sense, picturing myself in your situation i would feel the same way. he cant actually be charged with rape, because its not a law not to take advantage of a drunk person, you were probably consentual not by thinking that he was your boyfriend but just by not being able to clearly think at all. its pretty much up to your morals whether you have sex with someone when their drunk or not. that goes for someone that your not already having sex with. this guy didnt have these good morals, or maybe he did and he was around as shitfaced as you, either way the night is blurry and like you said youve been punished for it.. but it still doesnt end there. your boyfriend is understandably hurt. i know you can come back from this, and ultimately he has to understand but if you were in his place youde be hurt and angry too, even if it didnt do any good to be. you should give him his space, time is the only thing that will even begin to heal. he should of kicked that guys ass in the first place like my bf would of done. your bf knew how fucked up u were and he should of been taking better care of you. i dont want to play the blame game but this is a hard one cuz in a way its no ones fault and everyones fault.

#6 by xxxkitikonitxxx

Damn sorry to hear that keep your head up!

#5 by BleedingAngelRose

Pfft. I don't drink at all (underage) and I hope I don't really drink at all later, but comment 2 got me ticked off. Honey, basically you didn't do anything wrong! Drinking impairs how you think and how you act and all that. It is completely normal to drink and not know it once your drunk. But with the feelings of your bf, sit him down and just talk about it with him. And if none of you know who that guy is, how do you know if he was lying or not? If you can't remember, and the other guys never saw the whole thing, whose to say that the guy raped you? I'm not saying you were or weren't, but hopefully he was lying (or he was drunk himself for taking advantage of someone else who was drunk O_o) Hopefully it will all turn out right! And a suggestion (you don't have to do this, it's just me thinking out loud) make a promise with your bf saying to not drink a great amount or whatever, so something like this won't happen again.

#4 by Anonymous

I think you may be throwing the word rape around a little loosely,and thats a really big accusation seeing as how you don't know what lead up to your sexually encounter with the stranger, i think you should take ur lumps and move on, we all make mistakes and we all have to live with the consequences

#3 by Anonymous

you should really contact some type of counselor and explain what happened. yeah, it was dumb on your part, and you know that, but i seriously think you should seek some professional advice, and not just advice from strangers online. and if your bf doesn't understand/care about your feelings, then maybe he's not that great of a bf in the first place. Best of luck.

#2 by Anonymous

Alcohol is not an excuse. You should know your limits, and not go over them. You did a very irresponsible thing and now have to pay the price.

#1 by Anonymous

sit down with him and have a heart-to-heart. Tell him exactly what you feel. Im sure if he knew exactly how you felt he wouldnt be acting like this. And if he still is wrapped up in his own drama about the situation then i dont think you should be with a guy that doesnt consider how you feel.