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September 14, 2009 at 1:14 pm by Anonymous in - Relationships
#10 by Anonymous
Get your priorities straight. You need to finish school and focus on making sure your son is taken care of, not getting pregnant to trap a guy, who otherwise wouldn't marry you, into marriage.
#9 by Anonymous
If your relationship is on and off sometimes then maybe this relationship isn't working. If you take this advice seriously and break up then there is the object of your son and who he stays with. I'd say you ask him who he would like to stay with.
#8 by Anonymous
Marriage is not a game you play,it is special and having a child doesn't change a persons feelings,it's ok to consider other people feelings but if you don't respect your own you can't respect anyone elses do it for you not because someone wants you too
#7 by Anonymous
Finish school. The last thing you need is another mouth to feed if/when he leaves you. Don't get pregnant. Don't get married.
#6 by Anonymous
So you're saying if you don't have another baby he won't marry you? If that's the case then why would you want to marry him? Finish school by all means and always make sure you can support yourself and your child first!! It looks like from the other posts a lot of us have "been there done that" Lose this guy fast.....Good luck to you!
#5 by Anonymous
You deserve a great future where you don't have to depend on someone else and nursing school can do that for you! If he truely loves you he'll marry you regardless of how many children you have.
#4 by Anonymous
Girl please, I had my first child at 19 from my highschool sweetheart. We were on and off. I got pregnant again. My boys are 18 months apart. He didn't marry me then and later I realized I was glad he did. He was a complete ass. And I was going to school and he was jealous of that too. Bump him, this ish ain't health. Girl go and do you. He can hold off til you finish if he really loves you. It sounds like he is trying to tie you down wit some babies and believe me when I tell you it ain't any easier with 2 childre. I am now married but not to that dream buster. Trust me when I tell you. Don't get pregnant yet. Wait till he marries you and you finish school. Its harder when you prolong it. I am just getting back into school now that all my children are out of daycare.
#3 by Anonymous
The reality is if he wanted to marry you and love you he would support you in going back to school and be willing to marry you and wait for you to finish school or almost be finished before he asked you to have another baby. My daughter's father and I dated for 7.5 years and he wanted another baby but I didn't I wanted to go back to school and get my Master's well needless to say when I told him that I was gonna go back to school and we could try and have another baby in my last semester for my Masyer's degree that way I would be done with school by the time the baby comes he refused to wait and so I told him if he loved me he would support me and asking me to have him another baby and put school on hold and we weren't married was backwards to me asking me to do all the compromising and to me it was his insurance policy that I would have to depend on him. I said no and we broke up not too long afterwards and I am now pleased to say I am in a relationship with a great and we are in the planning process of our wedding which will be in 2011 because we want it to be perfect. He supports me in everything I do and treats my child as his own. So do you and persue your dreams and if he loves you he will follow suit and do what you need to do to provide for your child.
#2 by Anonymous
Don't do it. If he wanted to marry you he could have by now. One child is hard but trust two is very hard. He should go ahead and marry you before he even wants another child anyway. I went through the same thing, a high school sweet heart one child by 19 and he said he would marry me if we had another. Well I have that other but he is not my husband. Go on and get your nursing on. Don't do it on a hunch.
#1 by Anonymous
What will happen if you ever break up with this man? How will you support yourself? I say finish school
